The Uti Creator

Last Update: 12-3-2023

Your body isn’t out to hurt you. It is an intelligence system that wants nothing but the best for you no matter how you treat it. Give your body a little bit more credit than it being a broken down machine. I believe that illness is a feedback mechanism that let’s us know when something is emotionally bothering us under the surface that we may or may not be conscious of. Are there physical factors involved in illness? Absolutely. Can studies and evidence-based medicine be the only pieces of the puzzle that matter? I think not. Gather as much information as you can physically, emotionally and spiritually before making any decisions involving your body. Be your best advocate.

With Love, Rachel Reimer

AN ILLUSTRATION OF The UTI Creator

Who doesn’t love a classic Mean Girls (2004) analogy? If you haven’t seen the movie, but would like to gain a better understanding of the UTI creator, I would highly recommend it. That movie is so fetch.

There are two main characters. The “mean girl”, Regina George, is played by Rachel McAdams and the “victim”, Cady Heron, is played by Lindsay Lohan. Cady’s family relocates to the United States after living in Africa. She is desperate to fit in. Cady becomes friends with a group of girls known as the “plastics". Regina George is the leader of this group.

After joining the plastics, Cady starts to allow the plastics to treat her poorly. (Remember, she is desperate to fit in.) However, Cady doesn’t feel like she is allowing them to treat her poorly. She feels like they are doing it to her.

As the film continues, Cady develops a crush on a boy named Aaron in her math class. Once Regina discovers this, she takes an interest in Aaron. Regina invites Aaron to sit with her at lunch. When Cady approaches, Regina plays with Aaron’s hair and says “Cady, tell Aaron he looks sexy with his hair pushed back.” Cady immediately feels anger and rage.

The movie cuts to a scene of what Cady would like to do to Regina at this moment. Cady would love to fly across the lunch table, wrap her hands around Regina’s neck and fight her. A comparison is made by Cady of “how things are settled in the wild.” Instead of acting out her anger, Cady says “Your hair looks sexy pushed back.”

This is a perfect example of a UTI creator. When Cady felt that moment of anger and rage, she didn’t express it or feel it. Instead, she stuffed it. In an attempt to heal, a common next step for the UTI creator is to express their anger at the person that they are angry at (directly or secretively.) Cady decided to express her anger at Regina by secretly retaliating against her.

One example of this sneaky fighting was the food that Cady gave to Regina. Cady was conscious that Regina wanted to lose weight. To get back at her, Cady gave Regina weight gaining bars. Eventually, Regina couldn’t fit into her clothes. I suspect Cady did this to feel better and to release her own anger/hurt. Did it do the job? No.

THERAPEUTIC CONSIDERATIONS

The word “creator” is used very intentionally. If an individual can live out the illustration of The UTI Creator over and over again, it is CREATED. Here are questions that I encourage you to journal about and/or discuss with your counselor.

*Do not sit and think about these questions. Get the thoughts out of your body through writing or speech. A true, unbiased, analysis of oneself can not happen within just the contents of one’s own mind.

Who or what is your Regina George?
Are they trying to behave like Regina George on purpose?
Why do you ALLOW people to treat you poorly? Why did Cady allow the plastics to treat her poorly?
Why don’t you feel accepted in general?
Do you believe it is possible for someone to accept you without treating you poorly?
Does retaliating release your anger and hurt? (Think back to a time where you retaliated. Are you still angry/hurt about the original wound?)
Are the people that treat you poorly also desperate for acceptance?

What helped Cady release her anger/rage was the understanding that everyone wants to be accepted. At the end of the movie when she won “Spring Fling Queen”, Cady broke apart her crown and gave it her fellow classmates; including Regina George. When individuals are desperate for acceptance, they are willing to hurt other people to get the love that they are so desperately feel like they need.

Another way to work on releasing anger/hurt/resentment is to understand forgiveness. My favorite definition of forgiveness that I have found is the following:

“Forgiveness is giving up all hope for a better past.” -Jerry Jampolsky

The past is not able to change. You are not able to change the behavior of others. However, you can change what you allow into your life.

As with all healing, it is a journey. If you are a UTI creator, it may take months or years to truly work through this hurt, anger and resentment. Release the attachment to when you should get better. The more you resist your hurt, anger and resentment that it “shouldn’t be here”, the more suffering you will experience.

If you would like to talk to someone that is familiar with emotional stress and how it may impact specific parts of the body, you can book a session with Rachel Reimer here:

www.myraeofhope.com

Disclaimer: Rachel (Reimer) Hyde from Rae of Hope® is not a medical doctor or licensed health care practitioner, and does not claim to be one. Rachel (Reimer) Hyde from Rae of Hope® does NOT diagnose, treat, prescribe, mitigate, alleviate or care for any disease of any kind. Rachel (Reimer) Hyde from Rae of Hope® insights are not a replacement or substitute for appropriate medical care or medical exam; nor does it replace the need for services provided by medical professionals. Always consult a physician or trained health care professional for diagnosis and treatment of any medical problem, issue, disease or condition.

*The content on this post is based off of opinion and/or observation and is for entertainment purposes only.