The Heart Attack creator

Last Updated: 12-13-2023

Your body isn’t out to hurt you. It is an intelligence system that wants nothing but the best for you no matter how you treat it. Give your body a little bit more credit than it being a broken down machine. I believe that illness is a feedback mechanism that lets us know when something is emotionally bothering us under the surface; that we may or may not be conscious of. Are there physical factors involved in illness? YES! Can studies and evidence-based medicine be the only pieces of the puzzle that matter? I don’t believe this to be true. Gather as much information as you can physically, emotionally and spiritually before making any decisions involving your body. Be your best advocate.

With Love, Rachel Reimer

An Illustration of the Heart Attack Creator

The Heart Attack Creator has a “joy deficiency”. When they were a little one, they were told “you live to serve” and/or “you aren’t worth loving”. If the parent/authority figure saw that they were experiencing joy, they would make or guilt trip the Heart Attack Creator to wring out the joy in their life. As a result of doing this, for decades, the Heart Attack Creator’s heart looks worn out and torn apart.

Why would the Heart Attack Creator wring out the joy in their life? The fear of complete abandonment and isolation.

They live by this statement:

“________ is not fulfilling. However, I will continue to do ________ to give you __________. If I do this, you won’t completely abandon me.”

The Heart Attack Creator may struggle to find the difference between the words joy, happy and content.

Here are a few definitions for each word:

Joy ="this feels fulfilling/I feel connected to higher power"

Happy ="this feels great/I feel great" (this can get mistaken for addiction)

Content ="‘this feels okay/I feel fine" (the path of least resistance)

To work through the Heart Attack Creator energy, the Heart Attack Creator must risk complete abandonment and isolation from the you (the person(s) they have been sacrificing for). It will likely require regular counseling to gain the courage to do this.

Here is a common thought pattern that I see in individuals that have Heart Attack Creator energy:

“My food, drinks and daily life make me “happy” (addiction). Why would I risk complete abandonment and isolation? Why can’t I live out the rest of my days the way that I want?”

Here are some questions to consider:

Do you feel fulfilled with your current diet? Does it make you “happy”/ feel good to avoid feeling bad feelings? Does it make you “happy” to engage in self-destructing behaviors (no benefit for your body)? What are activities/behaviors that do feel fulfilling? What do you need to change to regularly do more activities/behaviors that feel fulfilling?

Therapeutic Considerations

The word “creator” is used very intentionally. If an individual can live out the illustration of The Heart Attack Creator over and over again, it is CREATED. Here are questions that I encourage you to journal about and/or discuss with your counselor.

*Do not sit and think about these questions. Get the thoughts out of your body through writing or speech. A true, unbiased, analysis of oneself can not happen within just the contents of one’s own mind.

Who has emotionally abandoned you? (Who hasn’t shown up for you when you were scared, hurt, feeling like a failure etc.?)
Did the people who previously abandoned you do it to harm you maliciously/on purpose? Did they know that they were abandoning you? Why do people abandon/neglect other people or animals on purpose?
If someone could accept you, without you needing to do anything to keep them, what would you do with your life? What would you do differently? If you could fail and still receive love, what would you like to try?
If humans have neglected you/abandoned you, do you fear that your higher power has or will also do the same? Does God have your back? Does God say that you don’t get to experience joy?
Would your partner, family, friends and/or children love you even if you added nothing to society or to their lives? What if there is a difference between loving someone’s behavior and loving them at their core (soul)?
Who modeled that it is okay to wring the joy out of your life? (Who specifically did you learn this from? The tendency when answering this question is to say “society”. I have found that this may account for a very small percentage. When working with clients, I have found that it typically comes from one specific individual. Sit with this question until one specific individual starts to show up.)
Do you believe that joy is a feeling that exists for you? Did you feel like the highest emotion you could experience on Earth was happiness?
When you die, do you believe that you will go to heaven and repeat the same process? Will you do things that are content in heaven to please your loved ones so they won’t abandon you?
Is it possible to be abandoned and isolated in heaven/the after life? When you die, do the people that abandoned you, judged you, criticized you continue to do so? If they do, isn’t that your own personal version of hell?
The Heart Attack Creator frequently grows up in a household where criticism=love. Criticism can be identified when someone uses the phrases “You have to….” “You should…” “You need to…” These phrases are used because the person doesn’t want you to experience abandonment like they have. Example 1: “You have to pay your taxes on time. If you don’t, you will be in trouble. If you get in trouble, then people will be mad/angry at you. If people are mad/angry at you, they will emotionally abandon you/ice you out."
What is fulfilling to you? What does fulfilment feel like? Have you connected with the core of who you are? Can you distinguish the difference between your ego (the voice in your head) and your spirit/soul (who you inherently are without judgement)
If happiness = “this feels great” and addiction =”I get an emotional hit off of this like a drug” are you happy with your lifestyle or are you addicted to your lifestyle? If your food, drink or lifestyle activity were taken away from you, would you go into withdrawal? If you would go into withdrawal, is it possible you are addicted to it?
If you have spent years serving someone or feeling like you aren’t worth loving, does that give you a “pass” to engage in addictive behavior?

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*The content on this post is based off of opinion and/or observation and is for entertainment purposes only.